You Show Him Interest, But He Ignores You - Is There Any Chance of Making A Relationship Work?

You really like him and with every fiber of your heart and body your single deepest longing is to be his girlfriend. But when you show him your interest in him he ignores you and you are getting frustrated and discouraged. You are now wondering if there are any chances of making a relationship with him work. Is it possible to turn his lack of interest into attraction and fascination with you? What can you do to fascinate him and get him interested in you?

1) Do your research and understand him. To get him interested you need to understand him and what it is that he likes and is interested in. You can discreetly observe him or casually ask about him from his friends or colleagues. The more information you have about him the better equipped you will be so that you know exactly who he is, his personality and his relationship status. You need to see him beyond how much you do like him so that you can interpret his lack of interest in you on the basis of knowledge. Is his apparent lack of interest in you just his inability to handle women effectively or is it because his personality makes him react in a way that appears uninterested or is he in a relationship with someone else or is he interested in another girl? If he is emotionally entangled with another girl then a relationship with him may not be possible right now and you may need to bid your time until his present emotional entanglements untangle.

2) Start at friendship. Making a relationship work with him requires that he notices you and all your great qualities and the surest way is to work at being his friend. Casually talk to him or his friends and build a relationship with him or his friends and let him get to know you as a friend. Do not rush the friendship but let it develop slowly and naturally. You want his interest in you or lack of it to be based on who you are and not on some preconceived notions that he may have. And be strategic in your friendship so that you ensure that you are a real friend who listens to him and spends time with him. If of course he has no interest in your friendship then there isn't much else you can do. The truth is that a relationship involves both of you and he MUST develop an interest with you and if he never does you may need to chalk that to life's experiences and move on. You cannot force anyone to like you; they either like you or they don't. But a good friendship often helps you both to 'see' each other better so that you know who it is that you are attracted to and he gets to know the great person that you are.

3) Ease up on the interest. Making a relationship work requires that you stop pursuing him as the more you chase the further he runs. Work on understanding him and being his friend and once those two things are done, then and only then can you let him see your romantic interest in him. And do it when you know that his attitude toward you has changed and he now appreciates you and sees the good things that you have. Observe him to know when the time to do this is right as you don't want to mess it up after all your hard work. Timing is everything as if you do it to soon he will bolt and if you take too long another girl might come along and steal his heart as you watch.

Making a relationship work with a man who is not interested in you requires that you are deliberate and strategic by following the 3 steps given.

However if you are still not sure that his opinion of you has changed then use these 15 signs of a man's interest to determine if he really does like you but if you just don't know how to attract him to you then use these attraction tidbits to guide you on what you can do.

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How to Have a Great Relationship

Has the fire gone out of your relationship? Does it feel like you're stuck in a rut and you can't figure out how to get out of it? Are you and your partner just going through the motions? If you want a really great relationship then you have to put in the time and effort to create it.

Great relationships take work! They don't just happen. The people involved in these kinds of relationships have put in a lot of time and effort to make them that way. They have made their relationships the most important thing in their lives.

So here are some great tips on how you can help to create your own great relationships.

Number One: Make the decision that you are going to make your relationship the very best it can be. Just making this decision will get you off to a great start.

Number Two: Understand that great relationships are not created overnight. They take time and a lot of effort. Be willing to put in the effort and go the distance.

Number Three: Be willing to make sacrifices and compromises. When you sacrifice your needs to meet the needs of others you will eventually find that your needs are being met too.

Number Four: Learn to listen deeply to what your partner is saying. This is one of the greatest skills a person can acquire. When your partner is speaking, make sure that you are looking into their eyes and giving them your full attention. And don't interrupt them while they are speaking. Wait until they finish before you speak. This will let them know that you value them and what they have to say.

Number Five: Focus on the "little things." The big things tend to take care of themselves. Most of us want to do the really big things but it is the little things that have the biggest impact on relationships over time. Spend some time thinking about the little things you can do to make your partner happy.

Here are a couple of suggestions. When your partner is out mowing the yard take him/her a glass of cold lemonade or water. On the way home from work, stop and pick up some of their favorite candy. Do things to let them know you are thinking about them.

Number Six: Keep the lines of communication open. Never stop talking to each other, even when you're angry at each other. As long as you are communicating with each other there is hope. Many relationships have fallen apart because the two people involved stopped talking to each other.

Following these suggestions will help to improve your relationships by leaps and bounds and you will be on your way to creating your own great relationships.

Did you know that you can create the kind of relationships you want in your life? It's a lot easier than you think. Want to know more? Go to My Incredible Relationships.

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The 4 Things You Can Do To Work Toward A Healthy Relationship

The way to healthy relationships between married or unmarried couples isn't a mystery. In fact, all throughout history, every successful relationship share 4 common things.

And believe me, they are not difficult things for you to have in your relationship. Put in some effort to apply the following tips and you too can have a healthy relationship that so many others dreamed of.

Learn to Mutually Respect Each Other

It's easy to respect your partner when you both just started dating, but unfortunately, mutual respect for each other may just be forgotten as time goes by and the both of you get overly familiar with each other. So respect for each other needs effort.

Don't disrespect your partner by making belittling comments about him/her, or criticizing him/her in front of others. Think of how you'd like to be treated by your partner and do likewise to him/her. That'll help you to watch your actions so you don't disrespect your partner and be on your way to a healthy relationship.

Be Encouraging

In other words, be the most supportive person you know for your partner. Encourage your partner to go after important goals and dreams no matter. And don't just stop there. Give your partner the space and freedom to do so too.

And when hard times come by, back your partner up and he/she will back you up too. Don't tear each other down no matter what.

Of course, don't expect support for negative things like bad habits. If your partner nags at you for those, he/she is doing it out of concern and not tearing you down.

Learn To Trust

All healthy relationships are built on trust, and trust goes both ways. So learn to trust your partner like how you'd like to be trusted. In fact, if you start having feelings of distrust toward your partner, your relationship will go downhill really fast.

With that said, don't become suspicious or jealous without any solid proof.

Of course, a solid sense of trust doesn't happen overnight. Help each other to keep your promises and sticking to mutually agreed rules of the relationship (no casual sex or keeping major issues from each other, etc.) consistently over a period of time.

Those little actions will help to build trust over time.

Never Use Manipulation

That means never use guilt, threats and lies to get what you want out of the relationship. Manipulation only worsens a relationship because it isn't based on trust, and there's no way you can get a healthy relationship with your partner this way.

So if you find your partner regularly threatening, lying or using guilt on you, then you'll need to think about your relationship because it won't become healthy overtime.

There are many things you can do to develop a healthy relationship with your partner, but the main things all healthy relationships share commonly are the 4 things you just learnt. Of course, you aren't just confined to them. All relationships are unique because no two people are alike, so always be opened to other tips that can be helpful to yours.

If you'd like to read other tips that can help you to develop a healthy relationship, be sure to check out my love blog at Romancepaper.com where I'll share with you tons of tips to better your relationship.

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3 Ways to Get the Spark Back in Your Relationship

Your relationship has become progressively boring in the sense that the excitement has diminished with time and it is now only a distant memory. You are not unhappy in the relationship but you are vaguely dissatisfied and you sorely miss the excitement and spark that you once had. Is it possible to get the spark back into your relationship? What do you need to do to get the spark back into your relationship?

I. Do the things that you used to do. When you had the spark and excitement in your relationship what deeds did you used to do for your partner? Did you spend hours talking with your partner about everything and nothing? Where you intensely interested in everything that concerned them? Did you actively and deliberately make time to hang out with them? Did you constantly look for interesting gifts and tokens for them? Did you do things for them that you knew they would enjoy? Think back and remember the specifics that you did and start doing those things that brought your partner joy and made them know they were loved by you; and you will reignite the spark back in your relationship.

II. Appreciate your partner constantly. No one can resist genuine appreciation and admiration and if you want your partner to grow alive again then give them the ammunition to do so by having a grateful heart and attitude toward them. Acknowledge today that your partner is great and they have some great character traits and they do some things wonderfully. And let them know often how great they really are but don't do it if it is not true. Observe what your partner does well and appreciate that. Let your partner know in clear and concise terms exactly what it is that you appreciate about their character and their behavior. Appreciate them whenever they display the character or behavior that you love and appreciate. Your speech needs to build up your partner and the more appreciated and loved they feel then they will reciprocate with time; and you will get the spark back in your relationship.

III. Love your partner practically! Your relationship has changed and so has your partner and you need to understand how you can love them practically today. Are they overwhelmed at work or stressed out by life? What can you do practically to make life easier for them? Do you understand your partner' love language? What things or deeds make them feel loved? Find a way to learn your partner's love language and then talk that language. When your partner begins to feel loved they will naturally be more loving to you; and you will get the spark back in your relationship.

You will need an attitude change in order to do the work required to get the spark back in your relationship.

However if nothing ever changes in your relationship despite all your efforts then use these bad marriage signs to understand if your relationship is actually dead but if you suspect that your partner has tired of the relationship and is actually on his way out then look at these breakup stages to understand if your partner is in the process of leaving you and what you can do to reverse the process.

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Romance and Seduction - The Essence of Relationship

Much of life's success is about convincing others to do what you want them to do.

Whether it's your kids, your dog, your staff, partner or local supermarket, convincing people to do what you want them to do is a key to getting what you want.

For the greater part, this convincing is done on the premise that it's going to be best for everyone if they do what you want. For example: Getting the kids to do what you think is best for them, makes your life better as well as theirs. Or convincing a well meaning telephone call centre operator that a refund would be in their company's best interest will be good for their review and your pocket too.

This rationalisation is necessary for our moral integrity.

Nobody likes being accused of manipulating people to sacrifice what is best for them in the interests of what is best for you. This deception is often the deeper emotional suspicion that drives to the core of marriage and relationship legal disputes, the accusation that somebody used somebody to get what they wanted.

What many people don't understand is that ROMANCE and SEDUCTION is exactly based on the science of getting people to do what you want. If you can romance and seduce somebody, you can, in fact, lead others with the same paradigm. Lets explore the details below:

Romance and Seduction... the Essence of Relationship

There are two aspects of romance and seduction that are not often talked about.

The first is that in romance and seduction we give people what they want in order to get what we want. This is great, a mutual agreement that, if you satisfy an ego need, such as approval, gratitude, thankful, material gifts, prioritising, infatuating, placing someone on a high altar, then, in return for that placement, that person will bestow some form of compliant behaviour.

So, the first step in getting people to do what we want them to do is one of honouring who they are, appreciating them and their needs.

This first step is often in stark contrast to more medieval forms of seduction which, in essence are to club somebody over the head, force submission, threaten their livelihood and gain slave-dom. This doesn't seem to be without problems in the long term... (payback time later)

The second step that we can observe in romance and seduction is that there's an alignment between what you want and what they want. This is the most complex aspect of getting people to do what you want. Lets explore this in more detail.

In contrast to the writings of Eckardt Tolle and many other people who solve life's problems, it's a well observed fact in human nature that all human eyes look to the future.

There are two future's everyone is interested in and invested in to varying degrees and this is where wisdom is needed because it changes, not so much person to person, but it changes within a person, day to day.

1. Future Number 1. The Next few Hours.
2. Future Number 2. The Next Few Years.

Future Number 1.

Instantaneous gratification is essential in today's world. The more of it we have, the more wealthy, happy, compliant, comfortable and emotionally stable most people become.

But there's a problem with this socialised and very physical aspect of Future Gratification being so short term, or as some writers put it, IN THE NOW.

The problem is this. If you watch a mouse in one of those wheels they get inside, where they run and the wheel turns you'll notice that the happier the mouse (more gratified with each step) the faster the wheel turns.

People are like this too. The more satisfied a person is (gratification) in the now, the more needs they can create to stay that way. Simply we are very adaptive and what pleased us no end yesterday, becomes taken for granted today and therefore drives more need for gratification. Obesity, depression, chronic fatigue, digestive problems, fear, greed and most allergies are driven by this cycle.

So, if you start to become a part of this Short Term Feeding Frenzy, in your attempt to romance and seduce a person, you'll find yourself on an escalating demand curve, in what you gave yesterday will in no way cause the excitement it did, or the reward it generated yesterday. So, you'll be in "never enough" mode.

Of course, this describes 99% of relationships. Living for the long term, feeding off the short term.

In order for this short term gratification process to remain seductive and romantic, and therefore cause people to do what you want, they must remain in absolutely thankfulness for what you offer.

This is easily achieved if they are in pain. Pain causes us to fear the loss of short term gratification. So, whether it's a mental pain (anxiety, fear, anger, depression) or physical pain (unable to enjoy the moment due to depreciating healthy) people in pain usually remain thankful for what they've got, or at least hungry for short term gratification.

This is often the trigger behind relationship failure where the hunt for escalating demand satisfaction has led to a giving up on the part of the seducer because they realise that giving the other person what they want does not result in getting what they giver wants. It's a bottomless pit of consumption, and there's no sustainable romance or seduction that works.

One client of mine met a guy who was extremely wealthy. She described the first years of their relationship and his gifts, their travels and the wonderful life they had and then, a sudden crash. She blamed him, but it was obvious that, while showered in gifts way beyond her own capacity to finance, this client was delirious in gratitude, returning it mostly in sexual and emotional favour. But as time went on, his gifting became repetitive, her resources grew larger with every gift, and her gratitude for the novelties grew less... and with that... the return on his investments in her short term happiness, grew less. (less sex, less emotional acceptance, more complaints).

Future Number 2. The Next Few Years.

When we speak of self reliance as a vital ingredient of spiritual self awareness, the reason for it is to reduce the dependency on short term gratification or, at the least, remain thankful for whatever we have so that pain does not become the automatic trigger to generate thankfulness in our lives.

Unless there is a thankfulness for the short term future, there cannot be a respectful focus on the long term future.

So, contentment, or as it's called "the Power of Now" is a very important ingredient to help us remain spiritually, emotionally and materially thankful for whatever our current circumstances are, and this, in turn, frees us to look to the long term future.

So, if you are romancing or seducing a person who

Is not in short term pain and therefore in short term gratification mode.or Is a spiritually aware individual who is thankful for what they already have (contentment)Then, you are going to need to offer longer term inducements to get them to do what you want.

In the case of the wealthy guy and my client, he offered a baby, which they had and then fought over. The reason for the fighting was that she went into immediate mothering pain, reverted to short term gratification, didn't know what she wanted to gratify herself, became compulsive, obsessive about the child, wanted new personality, spirituality and gurus and there was nothing her wealthy partner could do to romance or seduce her. In other words the pain of motherhood ironically drove her to self obsession. (the child became ADD and Hyperactive mirroring the mother)/

Long Term Romance and Seduction

A pay rise motivates people for around a month. This is the corporate statistic that is measured repeatedly. The lack of a pay rise demotivates people for years.

Short term gratification is an essential platform for long term, but while an individual is in short term pain, short term gratification mode, no long term inducements are going to motivate them to do what you want.

Take a group of eight people randomly selected and invite them to choose from a range of prizes. The prizes are all worth the same amount. There are chocolate bars, wine, a meal at a restaurant, a hair cut and a long term course in whatever they might choose. Make the value of each prize equal.

You will learn everything there need to be learned about that person's current motives simply by their choice. The shorter the gratification period of their choice, the more pain, or discontent they currently experience.

Long term future's create long term relationships. Short term future's create romantic and seductive relationships. Both are essential but if one is emphasised as more important than the other, or to the exclusion of the other, the seduction will not sustain itself.

To get people to do what you want you need to know whether they are in short term or long term mode. The key is to appeal, at all times to both and have the strength and courage to say NO to unbounded short term appetite for short term gratification. Saying no, to short term gratification builds appreciation, and appreciation for what you give, both short and long term, is the secret to getting what you want.

Innerwealth http://www.innerwealth.com/ is a real life, everyday, raw and nature based awareness that helps people live from the inside out. It opens hearts from past challenges, frees vision, inspiration and life purpose and gives rise to true human potential in all the seven areas of life. Innerwealth is also a process, a process that helps people deal with everyday challenges, tap their intuitive nature and live, in a sense, guided from within. A leaders edge, a lovers heart. There are twenty books in the Innerwealth Series, including Sacred Love and Innerwealth, plus "the Laws of Nature for Better Relationships" weekly blogs and podcasts. Chris Walker also runs consultations, interventions and seminars on Innerwealth at work and at home. http://www.innerwealth.com/.

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How to Save Your Relationship - Real Things You Can Do

Relationships are terribly complicated and fragile. One minute everything is going fine and the next minute everything is falling apart. If you are wondering how to save your relationship then there is some good news. Most relationships that are based on real love can be saved and most marriages can too. By following a few simple steps you will begin to see a big change in your relationship.

First of all, find out what is causing the problem in your relationship. This might take some serious thought. Sometimes it is something very simple that can be fixed quickly such as paying more attention to your partner. At other times it can be something a bit more complicated such as someone's feelings being deeply hurt over a long period of time or trust that has been broken. These situations will take longer to turn around and involve a lot more effort. What ever the problem is, figure it out and then begin to do whatever it takes to change it.

Next, don't try to control the other person. Allow them to be who they are. No one wants to be your idea of what they should be. Many people try to control how their partners act, think and even how they feel. Trying to control someone will usually just send them further away. If you are trying to save your relationship this is one thing you don't want to do.

Another thing you can do is to remember to be patient. Great relationships don't just happen and they are not built overnight. It takes a lot of time and effort to build a great relationship. Decide that you are in this for the long haul. If your relationship is worth saving, then it is worth putting forth the effort.

Be willing to apologize and admit your mistakes. This is a tough one for most people because we all have the tendency to want to be right all the time. It can be tough to admit you have made a mistake but doing so will help your relationship immensely. When you fail to apologize it can cause feelings of deep hurt that can last a long time and really damage your connection. Apologize anyway, even if you were right. Apologize for getting angry or for not understanding. You don't have to win every battle. The most important thing is to save your relationship. Right? This will send the signal to your mate that you care more about them than about being right.

Lastly, keep talking to each other, even when you're angry with each other. When couples stop talking to each other nothing gets accomplished and things do not get better. And be sure to listen too. Doing this will send the message to your mate that you love them and that you are not willing to let anger or anything else come between you.

If you are asking "how to save your relationship," following these steps will go a long way in building the kind of relationship you desire.

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Ways to Turn a Casual Relationship Into a Committed One

You and he are good friends who enjoy each other 's company and who do things together on and off. But gradually and over time your interest in him has changed so that you want more. You want to be THE romantic interest of his life and not just his casual friend. Your attraction for him makes you desperate to turn your casual friendly relationship into a committed romantic relationship. What are some ways to turn a casual relationship into a committed one?

i. Let him know how you feel! This may be daunting especially if he is completely clueless about how you feel. But to turn a casual relationship into a committed one he must know the new feelings that you have for him and the relationship changes that you want or hope for. The advantage is that he is your friend and you know him well enough to be able to do this properly. Think through how, where and when you will tell him so that he hears you and is able to process the information that you give him.

a. How to tell him? As simply as possible with as few words as possible. Resist the temptation to go into deep details as he needs to know right off what it is that you are saying. Using to many words and explanations may help you hide your nervousness but will confuse the issue. Be brief and to the point!

b. Where to tell him? In privacy as you don't want an audience and in a place that you would normally meet as friends. Resist the temptation to invite him to an unfamiliar romantic place as all that newness may scare him. You want to break the news in gradual doses so that its more palatable to him.

c. When to tell him? You want to tell him when he is most receptive and when he is not distracted doing other things. And you want to do it as quickly as possible so that he doesn't get a new love interest as you wait to tell him as that will torment you in unimaginable ways.

He may be shocked and you need to be mentally prepared for anything and your relationship may never be the same so you need to decide before you tell him whether you are ready for whatever his reaction may be.

ii. Drop hints about how you feel. If you do not have the courage to say it outright then you can drop hints about how you feel. You can for example turn the discussion into a hypothetical situation of what would happen if one of you falls in love with the other and see what he says. Use your imagination to let him begin to see the possibility of you and him as a couple. The advantage of this approach is that if he has no romantic interest in you then it's easier to go back to being friends as you never had a 'serious' discussion that will affect how you both act towards each other. The disadvantage is that your hints may not be strong enough and he may not get what it is that you are saying. This way is also more time consuming as you will probably have to drop many hints before he finally understands what it is that you are saying. Men don't get hints quickly and easily so this way may be a little more trying then the direct approach.

iii. Show him how you feel about him. This is usually the hardest road to travel as you have to try different ways to show him and he may just not get it. To show him you need to begin to touch him in a suggestive manner so that you touch his arm and shoulder when you talk to him. Look long and directly into his eyes when you talk. Smile suggestively and even wink when you get the opportunity. He will initially be set aback but if you persist and are fairly obvious then he will get an idea of what it is that you want and he will either stay or flee.

To turn a casual relationship into a committed one requires courage on your part and a strategy that you are comfortable with and which will work for the guy you want.

Rosy Anderson is a researcher in social economic issues and the way they affect decision making; and she enjoys writing and being in healthy, happy relationships. However if you want to know if he really likes you then use these 4 signs he loves you so that you can decide but if you want a strategy to win him over then use these 7 steps to win him over.

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5 Tips for Saving a Broken Relationship

Relationships can be so complicated. And when relationships are broken, they can be so devastating. The reason is that God made us to be in relationships with each other. And we come to depend on those relationships more than anything else. When a relationship comes to an end it makes us feel incomplete and unattached. Our whole lives seem broken and out of control. It you are interested in saving a broken relationship, then here are a few guidelines to follow.

Number One

Never make the other person think that you are ending the relationship. Many people will do this to try to scare the other person into doing what they want them to do. This kind of tactic will only lead to the other person feeling that you will leave them on their own and it makes them feel insecure. Don't do or say anything to make the other person feel that you are about to end the relationship.

Number Two

Always keep the lines of communication open. This is very important. It just might be the most important thing of all. As long as there is communication between the two of you, there is hope. As long as you are talking to each other you can find a way to heal your relationship. When you continue to communicate you are letting the other person know that you respect them and their feelings and are willing to work things out. By continuing to talk to each other you are showing that you care about each other.

Number Three

Understand that relationships take work. Great relationships don't just happen. You have to work at it. The people you know who have great relationships are the ones who have really worked at it. There is no such thing as a relationship without problems. All relationships have bumps along the way but the really great ones are the ones where two people have decided that their love for each other is greater than their differences. Saving a broken relationship can take some work but it is absolutely possible to do it.

Number Four

The other person has a right to feel the way they do. Just because you don't see things the same as the other person doesn't mean that their feelings are not justified. If they feel hurt, there is a reason for that. Maybe the thing that is causing them to feel hurt wouldn't have caused you to be hurt, but that doesn't mean that they should not feel hurt about it. They are not the same as you and that is a good thing. We are all different and we all see things differently.

Number Five

Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill. In other words, don't blow things out of proportion. Don't put too much emphasis on the little things. You will never agree totally on everything. If you are concerned about saving a broken relationship, then focus on the things that really matter, the positive things in your relationship. When you look at all the great things you have together, then the little things lose their importance.

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Transforming a Relationship Into a Soulmate Relationship

I have given many talks on the topic of soulmates and the first question people typically ask me is, 'what is a soulmate?' My answer is that soulmates are two people who are deeply in love with each other and are happy together on all levels - emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and sexually. But most importantly, soulmates are deeply committed to personal growth and support each other to reach this aim.

It is possible to transform your existing relationship into a soulmate relationship. The following case-study will show how to use higher-consciousness healing to achieve this aim.

Kare (32 years) came to see me because she was very unhappy in the relationship with her husband. They argued almost every day, their sexual relationship was non-existent and they both considered divorce. When I took Kate's case history she told me how her previous therapist had taught her to see the many ways she had been neglected by her parents. With tears in her eyes Kate reported that her father had never hugged her and that this was responsible for her current relationship problems. I explained to Kate that trying to make our parents responsible for our current problems is the fastest way to feel victimised and depressed while not solving anything at all.

I encouraged Kate to see her parents as well-meaning but fallible individuals just like herself. However, Kate remained doubtful. Then I talked to Kate about her husband and she said that he was generally a well-meaning man. Therefore, instead of going into the details of their squabbles I guided Kate into relaxation and helped her to receive a healing-symbol to overcome her resentments towards her husband. Kate received a red rose and I explained to her how she should visualise the rose in her heart and that the red-coloured light of the rose had a healing and loving quality that she should send to her husband.

When Kate came back after one week she told me that her relationship had improved but that she had had 'arguments in her mind' with me about the issue of not blaming her parents. However, she had known 'deep in her heart' that I was right. In that session I encouraged Kate to be more appreciative when her husband did something nice for her but also to insist that she had the same rights that he had.
Two weeks later Kate came back and told me that she hadn't had a single argument with her husband since she had come to see me. This was an enormous improvement. Even better, she had been able to assert herself and had managed to negotiate a good compromise with him over their long-standing issue of her going out. What's more, through practising her healing-symbol, a lot of love had arisen in her heart and she had fallen in love with him again and their sex-life had been rekindled. There was now a lot of good communication between the two and a willingness to work on problems rather than to argue about them. In other words, Kate's difficult marriage had been transformed into a soulmate relationship. But did these improvements last?

I had the chance to speak to Kate a year later and she reported that all the improvements with her husband had remained stable and satisfying. Occasionally, when things had become difficult again she had returned to practising her healing-symbol which had quickly helped her to re-establish harmony.

Everybody can achieve similar healing in their relationships by following the simple self-help exercises outlined in Tara Springett's books The Five-Minute Miracle and Soulmate Relationships.
Tara Springett holds an M.A. in Education and is a fully qualified psychotherapist. She has post-graduate qualifications in gestalt therapy, body awareness therapy and transpersonal therapy. She has worked as a drugs counselor, counselor for adolescents and general psychotherapist since 1988.
Tara has been a dedicated Buddhist practitioner since 1986. In 1997 she received encouragement from her Buddhist teacher to teach others. Tara has since taught on-going meditation groups and combines Buddhist wisdom and her experience in counseling when assisting her clients with their personal growth, self development & improvement.
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How to Save Your Relationship - Real Things You Can Do

Relationships are terribly complicated and fragile. One minute everything is going fine and the next minute everything is falling apart. If you are wondering how to save your relationship then there is some good news. Most relationships that are based on real love can be saved and most marriages can too. By following a few simple steps you will begin to see a big change in your relationship.
First of all, find out what is causing the problem in your relationship. This might take some serious thought. Sometimes it is something very simple that can be fixed quickly such as paying more attention to your partner. At other times it can be something a bit more complicated such as someone's feelings being deeply hurt over a long period of time or trust that has been broken. These situations will take longer to turn around and involve a lot more effort. What ever the problem is, figure it out and then begin to do whatever it takes to change it.
Next, don't try to control the other person. Allow them to be who they are. No one wants to be your idea of what they should be. Many people try to control how their partners act, think and even how they feel. Trying to control someone will usually just send them further away. If you are trying to save your relationship this is one thing you don't want to do.

The 4 Things You Can Do To Work Toward A Healthy Relationship

The way to healthy relationships between married or unmarried couples isn't a mystery. In fact, all throughout history, every successful relationship share 4 common things.

And believe me, they are not difficult things for you to have in your relationship. Put in some effort to apply the following tips and you too can have a healthy relationship that so many others dreamed of.

Learn to Mutually Respect Each Other

It's easy to respect your partner when you both just started dating, but unfortunately, mutual respect for each other may just be forgotten as time goes by and the both of you get overly familiar with each other. So respect for each other needs effort.

Don't disrespect your partner by making belittling comments about him/her, or criticizing him/her in front of others. Think of how you'd like to be treated by your partner and do likewise to him/her. That'll help you to watch your actions so you don't disrespect your partner and be on your way to a healthy relationship.

Be Encouraging

In other words, be the most supportive person you know for your partner. Encourage your partner to go after important goals and dreams no matter. And don't just stop there. Give your partner the space and freedom to do so too.

And when hard times come by, back your partner up and he/she will back you up too. Don't tear each other down no matter what.

Of course, don't expect support for negative things like bad habits. If your partner nags at you for those, he/she is doing it out of concern and not tearing you down.

Learn To Trust

All healthy relationships are built on trust, and trust goes both ways. So learn to trust your partner like how you'd like to be trusted. In fact, if you start having feelings of distrust toward your partner, your relationship will go downhill really fast.

With that said, don't become suspicious or jealous without any solid proof.

Of course, a solid sense of trust doesn't happen overnight. Help each other to keep your promises and sticking to mutually agreed rules of the relationship (no casual sex or keeping major issues from each other, etc.) consistently over a period of time.

Those little actions will help to build trust over time.

Never Use Manipulation

That means never use guilt, threats and lies to get what you want out of the relationship. Manipulation only worsens a relationship because it isn't based on trust, and there's no way you can get a healthy relationship with your partner this way.

So if you find your partner regularly threatening, lying or using guilt on you, then you'll need to think about your relationship because it won't become healthy overtime.

There are many things you can do to develop a healthy relationship with your partner, but the main things all healthy relationships share commonly are the 4 things you just learnt. Of course, you aren't just confined to them. All relationships are unique because no two people are alike, so always be opened to other tips that can be helpful to yours.

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How to Rebuild the Trust and Make a Relationship Work

You know there are no magic wands or secret spells to put your failing relationship back together again, there are a few real and practical solutions - trust, love, and respect.
Should just one of these be removed and your relationship is destined to crumble and may be doomed forever. If you relationship is a little rocky right now, there are a few rescue techniques that have been known to pull things back to where they once were.